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[lktknow]

I googled "weight loss help forums" and came up with 539,000 results. So, I spent the better part of the day, going through a majority of them , to sort of look around, and come up with what I am so desperately seeking.
I have let my weight totally get away from me, and I see no end in sight, as far as controlling it. I have settled into a set pattern in my life, and it seems as if I can find no motivation to alter it.
every morning when my eyes open, I tell myself, "Today is going to be the day ", the day I start doing something about my problem. But then the day is gone, and I have done the same thing I did the day before. And that is, sit on my computer from sun up to sundown.
I am so aware of the fact, that if I continue this way of living, that there is a great chance of me not seeing 2009. At my age, and doing what I am doing, and eating the way I eat, is a slow death sentence. any way you look at it. And I know that, but yet, I still do nothing.
I send myself inspirational emails, with pep talks about how much better I would feel, if I would only lose some weight and get moving, yet, when I receive them, I delete them.
I buy healthy food, blackberry's, and all sort of fruit, and watch them grow mold in the fridge, while I opt for a pint of ice cream, or chips, or I have even taken to making myself homemade enchiladas, (and if anyone has ever made them, it is not an easy task) but I make them just for myself, and pig out.
I realize that no one is going to come to my door and take me by the hand and make me do what needs to be done. But, I am hoping by joining this forum, is a sort of step in the right direction, and I may read something inspiring enough to get me up off my behind and doing something about the problem. Just reading the introductions in this forum was an uplifting feeling. And I chose this forum to join because I liked everything about it, the format in which it is laid out, and all, but mainly I felt a sort of closeness in the people who posted, and the struggles they are having. Like I said, I know no one will, or can MAKE me do something, but I truly believe if I continue to join your site and read the progress of it's users, that it may kick in and I will change.

[taytay]

I'm inspired by your message because my objective is to break many of the habits you described. The computer is infectious and lonliness is dangerous, take a walk around the block before logging on, then make yourself take a couple of breaks.

[Chrisydj]

You could get a friend to call you a few times a day and tell you its time to go for your walk. Or better yet make a commitment to someone that you are going to go walk WITH them 3-4 times a week. I know when I've told someone I'm going to do something that I do whatever it takes to be able to do it. I get so upset if I have to break my word. It might help keep you accountable for your exercise.

[nes2124]

I came across th OD just at the right time. It's so easy to gain weight with this board it will give you a incentive. Befor you get on the computer go for a walk up and down the driveway a few time to start, or walk around the house. That will start you off. You really got to want to lose weigh in order to loss it. Try to get yourself in a differant fraame of mind. Just make yourself eat the healthy food you been buying. For ice cream try buying yoghurt and putting in the freezer. That what I do. It worth a try and your worth it to. your a person. Keep on coming back

[lktknow]

I truly appreciate the reply's to my post, all of them, and faye thank you so much for the words of encouragement. You can't imagine what the simple words you said , when you said, "your worth it, your a person", meant to me, thank you for reinforcing something I tend to forget at times.
I'm 59, widowed, retired, kids are grown , and don't really need me any longer, although they do call for advice and (money ), lol, but I still feel rather useless most of the other time.
When Chrisydj said for me to make a commitment to walk with a friend, I came to the sad realization, that I have no friends. It has been mainly by my choice, that I have isolated myself for so long, that any friends I did have, have fallen by the wayside, I usually put my phone on "do not disturb", so, I screen my calls, but even they are becoming few and far between.
But, the suggestion was a good one, I have a horrible phobia about making anyone have to wait for me, so, I am always on time, so the suggestion to make the commitment was a good one, I would keep it.

I think what I may have done here, is put the cart before the horse. All of the posters here, seem to have a plan of action, so to speak, whereas I am just floundering. So....once again, I googled "behavior modification", and came up with a wide assortment of sites on that subject.
I'm still going to hang around here, and read all the posts, and I hope to have my own "plan of action" shortly.
thank you again

[nes2124]

Originally Posted by lktknow

I truly appreciate the reply's to my post, all of them, and faye thank you so much for the words of encouragement. You can't imagine what the simple words you said , when you said, "your worth it, your a person", meant to me, thank you for reinforcing something I tend to forget at times.
I'm 59, widowed, retired, kids are grown , and don't really need me any longer, although they do call for advice and (money ), lol, but I still feel rather useless most of the other time.
When Chrisydj said for me to make a commitment to walk with a friend, I came to the sad realization, that I have no friends. It has been mainly by my choice, that I have isolated myself for so long, that any friends I did have, have fallen by the wayside, I usually put my phone on "do not disturb", so, I screen my calls, but even they are becoming few and far between.
But, the suggestion was a good one, I have a horrible phobia about making anyone have to wait for me, so, I am always on time, so the suggestion to make the commitment was a good one, I would keep it.

I think what I may have done here, is put the cart before the horse. All of the posters here, seem to have a plan of action, so to speak, whereas I am just floundering. So....once again, I googled "behavior modification", and came up with a wide assortment of sites on that subject.
I'm still going to hang around here, and read all the posts, and I hope to have my own "plan of action" shortly.
thank you again

Stick around, you have friends here. My daughter is all grown up to. I have 4 grandchildren. I have troulbe going out because I don't like anyone to see me. I do go to the Drs offices. I do visit a friend proable once a month. My husband does the shopping. Although I do go to walmart once in a while. Hang in there.

[Chrisydj]

Originally Posted by lktknow

I truly appreciate the reply's to my post, all of them, and faye thank you so much for the words of encouragement. You can't imagine what the simple words you said , when you said, "your worth it, your a person", meant to me, thank you for reinforcing something I tend to forget at times.
I'm 59, widowed, retired, kids are grown , and don't really need me any longer, although they do call for advice and (money ), lol, but I still feel rather useless most of the other time.
When Chrisydj said for me to make a commitment to walk with a friend, I came to the sad realization, that I have no friends. It has been mainly by my choice, that I have isolated myself for so long, that any friends I did have, have fallen by the wayside, I usually put my phone on "do not disturb", so, I screen my calls, but even they are becoming few and far between.
But, the suggestion was a good one, I have a horrible phobia about making anyone have to wait for me, so, I am always on time, so the suggestion to make the commitment was a good one, I would keep it.

I think what I may have done here, is put the cart before the horse. All of the posters here, seem to have a plan of action, so to speak, whereas I am just floundering. So....once again, I googled "behavior modification", and came up with a wide assortment of sites on that subject.
I'm still going to hang around here, and read all the posts, and I hope to have my own "plan of action" shortly.
thank you again

I dont have many friends myself so what I have done is I joined a website called sparkpeople.com and joined a team on it in the area I live in and have made commitments to a few of the women to walk with them a couple of times a week. I've made new friends and made sure that I have a commitment to be somewhere for someone. The site also has a nutrition tracker. You just input the foods you ate and how much of it and it counts the calories for you. It will also figure out how many calories you need to eat to lose 1-2 lbs a week based on your height weight age how active you are. and it has a fitness tracker. You put in how long you walked at about what pace or how long you did a specific workout and it figures how many calories you burned. Between that site and this one I stay motivated. I also started a blog on MySpace.com tracking my progress. It seems to be keeping me accountable.

If you lived near me I would be willing to meet with you for a walk. I love to get outside even on days like today when it got up to 108 degrees. i just waited until 8pm to walk. You just have to find what it takes to get you motivated and what will keep you motivated. But I tell you once you start seeing the numbers on the scale getting smaller and your clothes getting bigger on you you wont want to stop. You'll feel so proud of your hard work. Just never give up on yourself. And never let anyone get you down.