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[Chrisydj]

I'm having trouble eating right this week. We've gotten some really bad news about my kids dad. I took him to the er monday morning because he started having seziures sunday night. They did a ct on his head and found a mass in the right side of his brain. Then they did an mri and found more smaller masses in the left side of his brain. So they did a ct on his chest and found something in his lungs and say it is a 99% chance of lung cancer. I havent told the kids yet because we arent sure that it is cancer, but the stress of it all is making me want to eat. Yesterday I went and had a great big greasy onion burger and fries and today i had pizza. I feel horrible about eating like that. And I know food is only a bandaid for the stress and worry and will only make my health worse. But right now all I wanna do is cry and eat. But since the kids dont know how bad it is yet I cant cry. I'm dreading telling my daughter that her worst fear about her smoker father is come true. She has begged him for years to stop smoking and he keeps promising that he will but he never does. Even now he is trying to convice the nurses to let him go outside and smoke. He could die and all he can think about is smoking and all I can think about is a gallon of chocolate chip cookie dough ice cream. Thank goodness I dont have any in the house. I did buy some sugar free ice cream bars and I had one but i want another. I know i dont need another but I want one. The strange thing about how upset I am about the news is that he is my x husband. We've been divorced for 7 years. But it scares me that he could die. My kids need their dad as much as they need me. GOD I WANNA EAT!

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Oh wow, I'm so sorry to hear. Even though it's an ex, you still have a bond with that person, because of your relationship and the relationship with your kids. Of course it's hard to think of any kid losing their father. I wish the best for the family.

Is there anywhere else you could channel your stresses? Gym? Time with the kids? Talking things out with friends/other family? Especially since you know that this is an emotional time, anything you can do to curb your appetite will help a lot, and there are a ton of tips in the weight loss forum. This process with your ex could be prolonged for a while, so you should try to get things under control before things go on too long. Remember, you're going to be all that your kids have left as far as natural parents go. Maybe you can use that as motivation to be healthy going forward, so you can be there for them a long time.

[Chrisydj]

thanx for your concern i just slipped up earlier i know i need to get a handle on this because it is emotional eating that i want to do but i'm not doing it. instead i had a sugar free hot cocoa and alot of water and sugar free gum. my stationary bike i ordered is ready to be picked up and put together i just gotta get my boyfriend to get it for me when he has time then i can get on it when i'm feelin the stress of it all, like right now. I'm sitting here the only one up and all i can do is cry and it doesnt help that i'm sick too i'm sorry i just needed to vent tried talking to my mom and she just kept telling me that i shouldnt be at the hospital with him so much or stress out over it so much she is more worried about how my boyfriend feels about me going to the hospital to support my x than she is about my kids losing their father i may have stop talking to her for a while cause it is after i talk to her that i want to eat

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Originally Posted by Chrisydj

thanx for your concern i just slipped up earlier i know i need to get a handle on this because it is emotional eating that i want to do but i'm not doing it. instead i had a sugar free hot cocoa and alot of water and sugar free gum. my stationary bike i ordered is ready to be picked up and put together i just gotta get my boyfriend to get it for me when he has time then i can get on it when i'm feelin the stress of it all, like right now. I'm sitting here the only one up and all i can do is cry and it doesnt help that i'm sick too i'm sorry i just needed to vent tried talking to my mom and she just kept telling me that i shouldnt be at the hospital with him so much or stress out over it so much she is more worried about how my boyfriend feels about me going to the hospital to support my x than she is about my kids losing their father i may have stop talking to her for a while cause it is after i talk to her that i want to eat

Wow, that advice doesn't sit well with me. I think you're doing the right thing if that means anything to you. I think you're getting back on the right path.... you just hit a rough spot. Stick to your guns, and maybe you're right, don't talk to mom about things for a bit. Or if you do, talk while you're on the exercise bike. You'll just pedal harder.

[Chrisydj]

thanx my boyfriend thinks i should be there too my x and i have become friends over the years, once i was able to get over what he did and see how he is growing up, so he isnt just the father of my children he's a friend as well. she just doesnt understand how i could get over and forgive the abuse. honestly now i'm wondering if the masses in his brain were there all along and could have been partially to blame for his behavior anyways thanks for listening