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[Kel]

One of my friends is going to marry soon. We discussed quite long about presents and stuff like that. Finally most of us decided that one part of our present will be a photo of us. I am the only one who wasn't satisfied with it.
I really don't like photos of myself. You know it makes me so sad to see much, because I am the only one in our circle of friends who is overweigh. Does anyone have the same problem?

[shanaki]

I'm in the same boat Kel - but I know my friends love me for who I am and I'm sure yours do too. Rather than beat ourselves up- maybe if we try to stay positive, we can move forward to treating ourselves to a healthier lifestyle!

[Kel]

It is really good to hear that somebody had the same problem like me. I know that my friends love me, but nevertheless the photo theme is always a big problem for me. Honestly a few times I cried watching at photos of my friends and me... So how do you deal with it? Do you avoid photos which show you or do you have the self-confidence to live with it?

[Obesity Discussion]

Originally Posted by shanaki

I'm in the same boat Kel - but I know my friends love me for who I am and I'm sure yours do too. Rather than beat ourselves up- maybe if we try to stay positive, we can move forward to treating ourselves to a healthier lifestyle!

Very well said and I think that's important to remember.

[shanaki]

Originally Posted by Kel

It is really good to hear that somebody had the same problem like me. I know that my friends love me, but nevertheless the photo theme is always a big problem for me. Honestly a few times I cried watching at photos of my friends and me... So how do you deal with it? Do you avoid photos which show you or do you have the self-confidence to live with it?

I must admit that I do often feel uncomfortable when someone brings out a camera - but hey - life's an adventure right! What doesn't kill us will make us stronger(sorry, I hate cliches) I try to stand or sit as tall as I can and SMILE. When I look back at the photos, it's a reality check that I really want to make a change in my life... and I also see lots of good times with family and friends. I know it can be painful Kel, but your here, so this tells me that your on your way to making the change...you can do it!

[Kel]

Thanks a lot for trying to support me. Maybe you are right. I am not happy with my weight, but that is why I came to this forum and why I have been doing a diet for several months. And actually I might be sad in a few years looking on all the photos of my circle of friends and I am in none of them... Well, I will try to have more self-confidence and not being the first one anymore who shouts: "I am going to take the photo!" Thanks a lot!

[shanaki]

Your welcome Kel - hang in there and ENJOY YOUR LIFE

[S. Max Gordon]

I didn't get family pictures or a lot of pictures taken at all with my daughter when she was first born because I was so self conscious, and I regret that so deeply. I think you're right about the regret.

[Kel]

Thanks a lot for opening my eyes. I assume you are right. Maybe I have already made some mistakes. For example there weren't any pictures taken of me when my husband and two close friends went on a small vacation a few weeks ago. I just looked at all these pictures and it even made me a little sad. Although it was just a few weeks ago! Anyways thanks a lot. I will try to remember your words when it comes up to take pictures again in the future!

[Obesity Discussion]

This thread put a big smile on my face!! I can't imagine anything worse than not being in the pictures at all. Better yet you'll be able to look back and be excited for how much progress you've made in the future!