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[sass63]

Hi guys its finally happened I am finally down in weight far enough that every 5 or ten lbs make a HUGE difference in the way I look and how my clothes fit. I am really amazed when I look back and think of being 400 pluss pounds to where I am today.
Everything about my life has changed and I love almost all the changes. Hubby is having a had time with a few of them but I have to remember I am doing this for me because I have too. If I hadnt I wouldn't have lived to today, I would have died yrs ago already, ate myself to death,
I hope we can still work things out but if we cant then I have to accept that also. I cant and wont go back to the person I was before.

[Obesity Discussion]

Yes Yes Yes!!!!! I'm so happy to hear this!!! You know that your lifestyle change is for the best in the long run, not just for you, but for the kids/grandkids as well.

[sass63]

Originally Posted by Obesity Discussion

Yes Yes Yes!!!!! I'm so happy to hear this!!! You know that your lifestyle change is for the best in the long run, not just for you, but for the kids/grandkids as well.

Thank You so much Dear and your right it is the best for everyone.

[Lyman]

It's very encouraging to hear your progress and how proud you are with yourself. 200+lbs lost is absolutely phenomenal.
It's unfortunate though if this is somehow creating problems at home, as long as you stay focused on this being something you're doing for yourself and not others then I imagine you will get there in the end.
Congratulations and wishing you continued success

[sass63]

Originally Posted by Lyman

It's very encouraging to hear your progress and how proud you are with yourself. 200+lbs lost is absolutely phenomenal.
It's unfortunate though if this is somehow creating problems at home, as long as you stay focused on this being something you're doing for yourself and not others then I imagine you will get there in the end.
Congratulations and wishing you continued success

Thank you very much.
When you have been married as long as I have 28yrs in a couple weeks. People get used to each other being one way, and I have done a lot of drastic changing the last couple of yrs. Yrs ago he would wake me up to eat with him. Now if he tried it I would be so upset with him that I wouldnt talk to him for days.
Before I was hiding from people because of the weight now I will talk to anyone and everyone. Most of the fear and anxiety of leaving my house is gone.
In the last yr I have come to realize that I am a capable person. These are all things that should have been there the whole time but where not. And I know for a fact that these changes are real hard for him to except. Where I would let him keep me down I no longer can allow it. But the bottom line with all of this is when one spouse does all kinds of changing and the other doesnt it tends to lead to problems.
And now he has to deal with stuff he never had to deal with before,the best example is that now I get looked and and before I would get looked over.
I have not given up but I have told him that there are some changes he needs to make for this to work. Depending on who you might be talking about it to depends on what kind of reaction I get out of this also. The biggest problem is that a lot of the time he doesnt feel he needs to change just because I have. If we can get past that with some kind of compramise I am sure everything will be fine. Its going to take time and I am willing to give him that. But I also am not willing for him to take to much time without seeing an effort on his part.
It might sound cold and hard but I have worked very hard to get where I am today and I cant allow anyone to drag me back down. The changes I made are the ones that made all this possible and personally I didnt care to much for the person I was before.

[inlove]

Oh congratulations!!!!!!!! That is awesome!!!!

[sass63]

Originally Posted by inlove

Oh congratulations!!!!!!!! That is awesome!!!!

Thank you dear

[inlove]

You are welcome!!!!

[Merle]

Originally Posted by sass63

Thank you very much.
When you have been married as long as I have 28yrs in a couple weeks. People get used to each other being one way, and I have done a lot of drastic changing the last couple of yrs. Yrs ago he would wake me up to eat with him. Now if he tried it I would be so upset with him that I wouldnt talk to him for days.
Before I was hiding from people because of the weight now I will talk to anyone and everyone. Most of the fear and anxiety of leaving my house is gone.
In the last yr I have come to realize that I am a capable person. These are all things that should have been there the whole time but where not. And I know for a fact that these changes are real hard for him to except. Where I would let him keep me down I no longer can allow it. But the bottom line with all of this is when one spouse does all kinds of changing and the other doesnt it tends to lead to problems.
And now he has to deal with stuff he never had to deal with before,the best example is that now I get looked and and before I would get looked over.
I have not given up but I have told him that there are some changes he needs to make for this to work. Depending on who you might be talking about it to depends on what kind of reaction I get out of this also. The biggest problem is that a lot of the time he doesnt feel he needs to change just because I have. If we can get past that with some kind of compramise I am sure everything will be fine. Its going to take time and I am willing to give him that. But I also am not willing for him to take to much time without seeing an effort on his part.
It might sound cold and hard but I have worked very hard to get where I am today and I cant allow anyone to drag me back down. The changes I made are the ones that made all this possible and personally I didnt care to much for the person I was before.

That's my girl! He's just jealous, that's all. I try to keep people who drag me down out of my life as much as possible. Don't let anything stop you from becoming happy and healthy. Keep it up Sass63!!!!

[sass63]

Originally Posted by Merle

That's my girl! He's just jealous, that's all. I try to keep people who drag me down out of my life as much as possible. Don't let anything stop you from becoming happy and healthy. Keep it up Sass63!!!!

Thanks dear I dont plan on it; A couple months ago he made it impossible to continue with school so I took a break, Now I am going back, So I took a stand and Iwont back down again. I cant I didnt like how I started to feel. The old feelings started coming back and thats when I took a stand. Because I wont go back there it wasnt pretty and I was miserable

[inlove]

Originally Posted by sass63

Thank you very much.
When you have been married as long as I have 28yrs in a couple weeks. People get used to each other being one way, and I have done a lot of drastic changing the last couple of yrs. Yrs ago he would wake me up to eat with him. Now if he tried it I would be so upset with him that I wouldnt talk to him for days.
Before I was hiding from people because of the weight now I will talk to anyone and everyone. Most of the fear and anxiety of leaving my house is gone.
In the last yr I have come to realize that I am a capable person. These are all things that should have been there the whole time but where not. And I know for a fact that these changes are real hard for him to except. Where I would let him keep me down I no longer can allow it. But the bottom line with all of this is when one spouse does all kinds of changing and the other doesnt it tends to lead to problems.
And now he has to deal with stuff he never had to deal with before,the best example is that now I get looked and and before I would get looked over.
I have not given up but I have told him that there are some changes he needs to make for this to work. Depending on who you might be talking about it to depends on what kind of reaction I get out of this also. The biggest problem is that a lot of the time he doesnt feel he needs to change just because I have. If we can get past that with some kind of compramise I am sure everything will be fine. Its going to take time and I am willing to give him that. But I also am not willing for him to take to much time without seeing an effort on his part.
It might sound cold and hard but I have worked very hard to get where I am today and I cant allow anyone to drag me back down. The changes I made are the ones that made all this possible and personally I didnt care to much for the person I was before.

I also 100% agree with you. I am sort of in the same boat. My husband is trying out for the police department so i started us on this diet kick. Now I am "hopefully" seeing results while he is not. And I think he is noticing the "looks" and don't know if it bothers him or not.

I say keep up the great work.....

[sass63]

Originally Posted by inlove

I also 100% agree with you. I am sort of in the same boat. My husband is trying out for the police department so i started us on this diet kick. Now I am "hopefully" seeing results while he is not. And I think he is noticing the "looks" and don't know if it bothers him or not.

I say keep up the great work.....

I agree keep up the good work!!!!! Hopefully he will soon be seeing results himself

[inlove]

Oh I am sssoo with you there. Jealousy is a horrible thing. Like I said I think mine could be upset at me for it too.

[sass63]

I was so excited today I went and got a dress for my daughters wedding and I got a size 18/20 That was soooo cool And sence hubby is on the road me wanted a pic to see so I thought I would share it here also This is so much better then the size 32 and up I was in before!!!!!!!

So here it is......

[inlove]

OH beautiful!!!!! You look awesome!!! congrats girlie!!!!

[Obesity Discussion]

Looking great Sass63!!!! We're all pround of you!!!

[sass63]

Originally Posted by Obesity Discussion

Looking great Sass63!!!! We're all pround of you!!!

Originally Posted by inlove

OH beautiful!!!!! You look awesome!!! congrats girlie!!!!

Thank you both so much you guys are great!!!

[early riser]

You look great -- nice choice of dress for the wedding!

Hang tough with hubby. We've been married 33 years, and have both gained a lot of weight. Mine is trying to lose weight at the same time, so it is a little easier for me. We both have similar goals, but lately he's been discouraging...telling me I'll never get down to where I want to be, and buying my favoriite snacks -- oatmeal raisin cookies. Arrrrrgh! I just have to ignore him sometimes. Hope you can do the same.

[sass63]

Originally Posted by early riser

You look great -- nice choice of dress for the wedding!

Hang tough with hubby. We've been married 33 years, and have both gained a lot of weight. Mine is trying to lose weight at the same time, so it is a little easier for me. We both have similar goals, but lately he's been discouraging...telling me I'll never get down to where I want to be, and buying my favoriite snacks -- oatmeal raisin cookies. Arrrrrgh! I just have to ignore him sometimes. Hope you can do the same.

Thank You so much

I am trying very hard to hang tough with hubby. If I wasnt I would be gone already but I am not about to throw away all these years without giving me a good chance to adjust to all the changes that I have made. That would not be resonable or fair to him. Because I do know with all his faults ( and we all have them ) that he does love me very much and I could never hurt him like that.

[Obesity Discussion]

Originally Posted by early riser

but lately he's been discouraging...telling me I'll never get down to where I want to be, and buying my favoriite snacks -- oatmeal raisin cookies. Arrrrrgh! I just have to ignore him sometimes. Hope you can do the same.

Stay tough and don't give in!

Originally Posted by sass63

Thank You so much

I am trying very hard to hang tough with hubby. If I wasnt I would be gone already but I am not about to throw away all these years without giving me a good chance to adjust to all the changes that I have made. That would not be resonable or fair to him. Because I do know with all his faults ( and we all have them ) that he does love me very much and I could never hurt him like that.

I'm sure everything will turn out for the best!