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Originally Posted by sass63  Thank you very much. 
When you have been married as long as I have 28yrs in a couple weeks. People get used to each other being one way, and I have done a lot of drastic changing the last couple of yrs. Yrs ago he would wake me up to eat with him. Now if he tried it I would be so upset with him that I wouldnt talk to him for days.
Before I was hiding from people because of the weight now I will talk to anyone and everyone. Most of the fear and anxiety of leaving my house is gone.
In the last yr I have come to realize that I am a capable person. These are all things that should have been there the whole time but where not. And I know for a fact that these changes are real hard for him to except. Where I would let him keep me down I no longer can allow it. But the bottom line with all of this is when one spouse does all kinds of changing and the other doesnt it tends to lead to problems.
And now he has to deal with stuff he never had to deal with before,the best example is that now I get looked and and before I would get looked over.
I have not given up but I have told him that there are some changes he needs to make for this to work. Depending on who you might be talking about it to depends on what kind of reaction I get out of this also. The biggest problem is that a lot of the time he doesnt feel he needs to change just because I have. If we can get past that with some kind of compramise I am sure everything will be fine. Its going to take time and I am willing to give him that. But I also am not willing for him to take to much time without seeing an effort on his part.
It might sound cold and hard but I have worked very hard to get where I am today and I cant allow anyone to drag me back down. The changes I made are the ones that made all this possible and personally I didnt care to much for the person I was before. |
That's my girl!
He's just jealous, that's all. I try to keep people who drag me down out of my life as much as possible. Don't let anything stop you from becoming happy and healthy. Keep it up Sass63!!!!
