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Originally Posted by sass63  I dont think I could ever speak in public about it, But I have a dream of one day helping the molested children. They need people like me that have been there,
I was told all kinds of things the 2 biggest things that are huge issues for me are that I was told that I would molest my children and as long as you have the "tools" you'll be fine. Both of those statements are told to millions of kids and its all bull!
Just because you have been molested doesnt mean your going to do that to your kids. And even after all these years and knowing all the "tools" it still can come back and give me a big ol slap in the face.
When I had my first son I was scared to death of him. Scared to death that what I had been told was true. It really effected the bonding process. By the time my second son was born I knew what they told me was a bunch of bull so I bonded well with him, But my first son and I are just now finally starting to have a strong relationship, now that he has kids of his own he can understand the fear I had and that it was beacuse I never wanted to hurt him, backfired big time but at least now we are finally getting close and are starting to have a tight bond. |
It sounds like your relationships are getting better with your kids which is a good thing. I am sure your children as they get older will appreciate everything you have done a lot more. It took me many years to appreciate what my parents had done for me.
