Hi and welcome everyone here is very helpful and wonderful as you are already finding out.
I am not sure how much help I can be other then someone to listen on a bad day.
My fathers top weight was just over 600lbs he wouldn't listen to anyone not the doctors and not his children,
He once told me that food was all he had and he would not have any weightloss surgery and he would eat as he liked.
In the end it did kill him. We lost him about 4 yrs ago. I miss him alot.
Don't give up on your mom as long as she is with you there is a chance you can change her mind. But the on thing you have to remember is she has to do it for herself. My father knew that and thats why he never changed anything he didn't want it.
I learned a lot from him. So did my brother and my sisters. We all topped out over 400lbs but unlike our father. Or maybe because of him. We all knew we didn't want the life he had. So we all took drastic steps to change. All of us had the weight loss surgery.
My brother still struggles with his weight he is on the gain again now.
My youngest sister is doing very well and went from just over 300lbs to some where around 180 now.
My middle sister died of a heart attack a month after her surgery. I miss her so very much we were more then sisters we were best friends.
And myself after the deaths of a grandchild,my father then losing my sister I started gaining again. I went back up to 330lbs and that was a little over a yr ago.
With myself I looked at myself one day and said NO WAY not after all this work. So I changed everything I dont eat the same I dont do a lot of the same things that caused the bad eating.
Its a life time struggle and right now I am on the winning team. But I want to watch my kids be grown ups and have all their children and I want to be here to watch the grandchildren grow up ect.
Sorry didnt mean to write a book here, But maybe you can find something in my story to help.
The best of luck to you and if you need an ear there is always someone around who cares to listen.
