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Originally Posted by shpoog  wow, first let me say thank you for your thoughtful responses! i truly appreciate them.
yes, this is certainly a complicated issue. we've tried many different variations of that initial conversation but nothing seems stick.
there's no doubt you are right when you say the only way for this to work successfully is for her to fully embrace the idea. our challenge has been getting her to accept what is happening and make a commitment to changing patterns of behavior that are deeply rooted in decades of living with this.
she hears the words, but won't do anything about it. she acknowledges that it's important but won't start down the path. she's an extremely bright woman so she fully understands all of the health consequences. yet, we can't get her to take a genuine first step down the road.
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I hear you on that one.
It sounds like she needs a little kick in the butt. Is there someone in the family or even one of her close friends that can join a gym with her and can be the one who picks her up and motivates her at the gym? It's a lot easier to do something when someone else you enjoy spending time with is doing it too. Plus humans are competitive by nature, so if she sees someone else doing it, she may be more apt to really get into it. It probably wouldn't hurt either to get her a few personal training sessions with a very attractive male trainer to get her going.
I also hate to say this, but maybe even set a reward system for her? Maybe if she loses say 100lbs the family pitches in and send her to Hawaii for a week? I know it's bribery, but maybe if there's something she really wants in life, she may be willing to hit the gym to get whatever that something is.
