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shpoog · 05-21-07, 05:53 PM

great, and thank you for the warm welcome!

my mother has been obese for as long as i can remember, at least 25 years. i've tried through the years to talk with her about it but it's always a difficult conversation to have. she's 67 years old and things aren't improving. her mobility is decreasing, she doesn't have much stamina, arthritis, etc.

several years ago i tried to participate in forums like this but it was a really negative experience. to my surprise, i was berated for trying to change her and people questioned my love for someone that i couldn't accept. this was a gross manipulation of reality and i realized that their mindset was more about obesity acceptance rather than dealing with the issues.

my mother means the world to me and i want to make sure she's with us for a long time and healthy. i don't know if she considers herself obese. at the same time, i don't think she sees someone skinny when she looks in the mirror either. i just don't know what is going on.

what i do know is that i want to do whatever i can to address the issue and to help her get on the track of losing weight. does anyone have thoughts or ideas? we've tried to talk with her and that hasn't been productive. we've talked with her physician and he's also talked with her about it to no avail.

forgive me if this thread has already been discussed. i'm certain i'm not the only person asking these questions.

05-21-07, 05:53 PM	#4 (permalink)
shpoog Newbie Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 7	Re: hello - new to the forums great, and thank you for the warm welcome! my mother has been obese for as long as i can remember, at least 25 years. i've tried through the years to talk with her about it but it's always a difficult conversation to have. she's 67 years old and things aren't improving. her mobility is decreasing, she doesn't have much stamina, arthritis, etc. several years ago i tried to participate in forums like this but it was a really negative experience. to my surprise, i was berated for trying to change her and people questioned my love for someone that i couldn't accept. this was a gross manipulation of reality and i realized that their mindset was more about obesity acceptance rather than dealing with the issues. my mother means the world to me and i want to make sure she's with us for a long time and healthy. i don't know if she considers herself obese. at the same time, i don't think she sees someone skinny when she looks in the mirror either. i just don't know what is going on. what i do know is that i want to do whatever i can to address the issue and to help her get on the track of losing weight. does anyone have thoughts or ideas? we've tried to talk with her and that hasn't been productive. we've talked with her physician and he's also talked with her about it to no avail. forgive me if this thread has already been discussed. i'm certain i'm not the only person asking these questions. Last edited by shpoog : 05-21-07 at 05:55 PM.