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Originally Posted by heidrun No my parents didnt tell me to fight back, their advice ranged from ignoring the bullies to laugh at the bullies etc. Just advices that wouldnt have solved anything because the bully-dynamic is based on the acceptances of the masses. That is if the majority thinks its ok to bully a certain person, she will be bullied, but if it turns out that this person has friends to back her up, then the bullying can be stopped. Since I had no one to back me up, the bullying didnt stop, and it continued mainly because it was seen as my problem and the adults and the other children didnt back me up. |
I agree it would have helped to have some freinds to back you up.
But now you have us to back you up
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Originally Posted by heidrun I did fight back on occasion. When the bullying got very personal I could get angry enough to beat someone. When that happened the teacher would get very angry to me, and interogate me why I was beating this boy, when in fact she was totally aware about what was really going on. When I said I beat him because he was bullying me, she always said in this winy tone I still remember "dear Heidrun, you have to go on a diet, then the kids wont tease you anymore"... Pretty soon I learned to shut up about the reasons for the beating. In fact the only thing that could stop the teasing for at least few days was to beat someone, but I am not a vilolent person, and I didnt like to lose control and use violence, it made me feel bad, even if it could be used to stop the bullies and gain some respect. |
I found that fighting back unfortunately was one of the few ways to get people to stop picking on me as a child. I chose a different route and figured it was better to get in trouble with teachers/parents than to continue to get bullied.
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Originally Posted by heidrun Doesnt bother me, since those people dont have anything to give me, they are just average boring people that will be lucky if they will be reborn as moths, simply a waste of oxygen to have them around. |
That's one of the funniest things I've heard in a while! I like your attitude!
