Wow Heidrun, you truly are a warrior for making it through everything you mentioned. I'm horribly disappointed in the advice and help you were given by others while you were a child. That was just not right.
Also, a lot of kids who tease and bully have problems at home or elsewhere, which is why they lash out on others. Many of them probably were verbally/physically abused at home by siblings or parents, or maybe witnessed it going on themselves. That doesn't make it right that they did that by any means however.
The fact that you can take a step back and look at your past like this is a very positive step to improving your future, and it sounds like you have recently been gaining confidence lately. Between writing these blogs to express your feelings, making a lifestyle change, giving your significant other an ultimatum, you are truly taking control of your life now. Good for you!!
I wish you the best on your current relationship. If it doesn't go well, you may want to consider the online option for dating? It will allow you to meet a lot of people you never would have bumped into in person.
Thanks again for sharing another wonderful writing with us! I think writing should be a new career for you
