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Originally Posted by chazzyb31  I'm glad you lifestyle is unencumbered enough to allow you to make that commitment to your body. However, I have more going on in my life than just losing weight right now, so I can't drop everything to head down to the gym. It's not feasible. If it was, I'd be there already. I'm still paying my £25 (that's $50 to you) monthly membership fee in the hopes that I get the time to go back. It just hasn't happened yet.
Yes, you do! I didn't join this site to be preached at. If I wanted to be preached at I'd go to church on Sundays, but I don't. Advice and support are one thing, preaching is quite another.
Like I said before, you need to back off. You don't have all the answers, regardless of how many people you've helped. You don't know me or my story, so you might want to bide your time until you know who you're talking to and what you're talking about before you start ladling out the advice. If you want to work with me you have to find out who I am. One size does not fit all. This applies to advice as well as clothing. While I know I'm not the only woman in the world to experience PMS, all PMS symptoms aren't the same. Some women are lucky enough to only suffer blind rages(!) I have a whole gamut of symptoms; craving food is only one of them.
If you truly want to help then you might try listening to what people are saying (or reading what they are typing, in this case). Take a telling and back off. Let someone else have a turn, OK?  |
You know what Chazzy, you yourself said "Feel free to post your comments." I did, and got all defensive about it. I really don't apologize for that.
You yourself said "I'm brand new to this site. I'm not entirely sure how it works." I'll tell you how things on this site have have gone since I opened it.
Up until today, 100 out of 100 times when people come on here and post all the problems that you just did in the manner you did, they're looking for suggestions and help to said problem. You just said wanted advice. I gave it to you. Dieting is not the answer. If it was we wouldn't be having this discussion at all.
I don't know you or your story? Was this someone else who posted this? This looks like a story to me.
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m brand new to this site. I'm not entirely sure how it works, but I thought I'd start by introducing myself. I'm a 37 yo female from Edinburgh in Scotland. I've been overweight my entire life (literally - from birth) and have made attempts to lose weight in the past without much success.
This year I decided to make a concerted effort, as my best friend was getting married in Memphis and had asked me to be a bridesmaid. I joined a slimming group called Slimming World in April and have lost 39lbs to date, but now I'm struggling. Now that the wedding is over I don't have a significant goal to spur me on. Better health and looking good have never been enough for me. I've been yo-yo-ing for 6 weeks now and I don't know what to do to turn things around.
My main trigger is my monthly cycle, which brings overwhelming cravings for chocolate and fatty foods. I don't generally eat a lot of junk food, but I start craving chocolate, ice cream, chips (fries) and corn snacks like nobody's business for 7-10 days every month. The compulsion to eat is so strong that I usually give in. I've tried eating other foods, like fruit or slow-release carbs, but it doesn't work. If I don't eat the foods I'm craving I end up eating everything else in sight and taking in a huge number of calories.
The thing is, I have enjoyed my weight loss as I've got a waist for the first time in my life. I've always been an apple shape, but thanks to 100 crunches every morning I've managed to whittle one of my spare tyres away and am now more of a pear shape. This has been noticed and brought me lots of compliments. It has also allowed me to buy new clothes in a smaller size that flatter my new shape. This is a great boost, but it's still not enough to fend off the overwhelming cravings that are plaguing me at the moment.
My exercise routine could be a whole lot better too. I'm naturally lazy - a complete couch potato - and apart from those 100 crunches and a T'ai Chi class that I just started taking, I don't do any exercise. I have mechanical problems with my feet which stop me from walking any distance without experiencing a lot of pain. I don't seem to be able to find time to go swimming, an activity that has helped me lose a lot of weight in the past.
All I seem to do is make excuses for why I can't do this. I can't seem to break the habit, which is frustrating and annoying. I'm angry with myself for being so weak, but it's just so hard to break the habits of a lifetime.
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As far as the suggestions I gave, I was offering ADVICE which you just said you wanted, that I thought maybe you hadn't tried...and might work for you if you hadn't tried it. Most people would have seen that I was only trying to help and offer suggestions. You on the other hand seem to think my intent is otherwise and are twisting and contorting what I say as you see fit to make me look bad.
Yes I know everyone is different yet I've been able to help countless people of all shapes and sizes. There's no reason why you have to be any different.
I'm sorry for posting my "comments" just like you asked in your original post, which obviously you don't want. I will no longer respond to you because no matter what I say you seem inclined to get another meaning (than it's intent) out of it.
I honestly think you have been disrespectful, coming on here and questioning me and my motives for starting this site, basically saying who am I to have this site and offer help, as well as trying to mock me.