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Originally Posted by justme  You know, I agree with you but I also know that if I start counting calories it is a sure fire method of getting me to gain weight. Not because counting calories makes anyone gain weight it is because it frustrated the living daylights out of me and I get REALLY tired of trying to keep track of all this. Which ALWAYS leads me to saying the following to myself “I don’t have time for this (insert proper expletive here) I’m getting a muffin” And |
But your shooting yourself in the foot. I look at it that by not spending the time now to do this calorie counting now, I'd just be costing myself time in the end in the form of a lower life expectancy. Counting calories doesn't take THAT long. Besides, once you do it for a while, you start to memorize the nutritional values of each slice of bread, each slice of cheese, etc. and it becomes easier and quicker to count.
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Originally Posted by justme Now for the last part --
Bottom-line, to loose weight takes one thing and only one thing “focus” without it you cannot follow any diet at all (period).
I have spent the last few days thinking about this and it comes down to I am not focusing… on anything…. other than my kids, these days. EVERYTHING can potentially set me off into a fit of anger lately. And that tells me I do not have any focus at all. . |
Well, you are focusing on your kids, but think of it this way, you are also partially losing weight for your kids. You'll be setting a better example for your kids which can have a positive impact on their health, but more importantly, by losing the weight you'll more likely be able to live longer and be around for your kids longer in life and be able to spend more time with them, and even their grandkids.
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Originally Posted by justme There is a lot more going on, other than job stress in my life, to cause this. Without going into great detail all I will say as that a couple people in my family have been diagnosed recently with some rather serious conditions that there is no cure for, it is just wait and watch things deteriorate. Also my wife and I recently helped bail out another family member that was spiraling into debt, to the tune of $50,000 thinking that it would help and all it appears to have done is give them extra money to create more debt and expect us to bail them out again, which will not happen, so this is causing a bit of a rift in the family. And then a close friend that is going through a divorce needed someone to talk to and chose me and now I have more intimate detail about their lives than anyone should have and I don’t need their problems on my shoulders.
I also know, although it is hard to admit, I really need to go talk to someone about all this before I have a stroke since every time I get angry the BP spikes.
With all that said I am going to cease posting for quite a while since all I can do it seems is complain, whine and be negative. None of which, believe it or not, is normal for me.
I will go back and continue what I started out doing but stopped doing a few weeks ago, Sanshou (Chinese martial art) and go talk to someone as well. And I just got another idea from my word spell checker that always wants me to correct Sanshou to snowshoe. I use to snowshoe too, I think when it snows I will go do that again. I am also considering snowboarding.
Thank you for all the support and advice but I got to go
Later all
Again thanks. |
I would absolutely go get back to Sanshou and talk to someone about things going on, and remember, we are all here for you too, and are more than willing to be a strong shoulder for you! You can talk to us about just about anything.
Besides, we're cheaper than a trained professional! It's OK to vent here. That's why we're here, and we encourage people to do so. Don't lose touch with us, keep us posted, we're all going to support you until the end.
